The 3 Consequences of Saying “NO”

What is the most difficult thing to do in the world? Today we talk about a habit that is essential, but the most difficult habit that one needs to develop to find happiness. That habit is – Saying “No”. Think about it. Isn’t saying no, the most difficult action that you are required to take? Isn’t saying no, that one truth you always try and avoid. Saying no is essential, but the most difficult route to happiness. Since childhood, it has been ingrained in our mindset that saying yes is the key to success. We are told that opportunities come in different disguises. And if we are not always ready to say yes, we will miss out on these opportunities. But do you really think that this is the case in real life? Accepting the notion that saying yes is the key to happiness is a myth. And I hope that after this article, you will understand why I am saying so.
There are three consequences when you say no, and all these three consequences lead to a happier life. Let’s look at them:

1. Better Allocation Of Your Resources
We all agree that we have limited time. We have limited resources to pursue our true happiness. If you keep saying yes to everything and anything that comes along your journey, you will further deplete these limited resources. Think about it, if on a given weekend, your happiness lies in staying back home and playing with your dog, but due to peer pressure, you say yes to a picnic with your office colleagues. Have you not sacrificed your happiness simply because you said yes? It may be a simple example. But if you see so many times in life, you have said yes, even though you wanted to say no, and it is these small incidents that add up to make sure that you never find your happiness.

2. People Will Value You More
The second consequence of having learned to say no is that people will only approach you with what they think is valuable for you. When you say yes to everything, people start taking you for granted. People will approach you with ideas, thoughts and work that even they themselves do not value simply because they know that you are the yes dustbin. They know they can come and dump everything and anything at you simply because you are there, always ready to say yes. Think about it. How many times in your life you have landed up wasting your time or your talent doing trivial things for others, simply because you did not have the confidence to say no to them.

3. Challenge Yourself To Find The Reason For Saying “Yes”
The third consequence of learning to say no, is that you challenge yourself to find the reason to say yes. We would like to always see the positive perspective of things. However, when your first reaction to an idea or to an opportunity is “no”, your mind works more efficiently to understand the challenge so that it can say “yes”. You develop a mindset which challenges rather than simply accepts ideas or opportunities. The human mind has been trained through centuries of dominance to say yes. Therefore , when you say “no”, you are challenging your mind to reason out why you should do something. This truly adds significant value to your growth in terms of knowledge and maturity levels.

I hope now you’re understanding why I think saying no is an important habit to develop in order to find your happiness. Saying no is not easy. Whether it is because of social pressure, economic reasons, or simply lack of confidence. Most people fail at saying no. And as a consequence, they land up wasting time, they land up wasting relationships, they land up wasting resources. It is a difficult path to travel, but it is an essential path to your happiness. One thing is for certain, the moment people start realising that you are an exception who knows how to say no, they will value you and they would also accept your no. Saying “no” adds simplicity to life. Saying “no” adds value to life. Saying “no” makes people respect you. All this leads to happiness in your daily life. In conclusion, I would like to request you to practice saying “no” in a dignified manner. You don’t have to be rude when you say “no”, you don’t have to be arrogant when you say “no”.
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